Is sex before marriage really all that wrong?

This is an interesting thread for someone whom was not a believer until he was 32 and had tons of sex outside of marriage. I honestly think virginity until marriage is part of God’s plan and it is possible in todays world. I will come at it from a different angle though.

When I was a non-believer, sex ruled my life and I thought it was awesome. I revolved my life around literally making sure I had dates and lots of great sex. The honest to God’s truth is that much of it was incredible; though much of it was terrible. I can tell you that I remember just about every woman I slept with and remember sleeping with them. My emotions with those women will always be there and they will always be sexual. This is the key issue that I talk to my kids about…I tell them that once you sleep with someone, you are with them for a lifetime. That person will forever see you naked in a compromising position. You will forever be a sexual picture in their mind. You will become an image to them instead of just a person. They remembeer the act and often not the emotion. When they are 75, if they run into you (if you are a guy) the first thing they are going to think about is having sex with you.

I also tell my kids that since both my wife and I had other relationships, there are people out there that look at us from a sexual position. I tell them that this is not the easiest thing to think of for either of us. I tell them that this is the path the Lord had us walk down, but they can walk down the path originally intended so when they get married, they can have a life time without looking back.

I will also say I find that alot of Christians have a pharisitical attitude towards virginity. I get a kick out of how some Christians put their virginity on a pedastal and think of themselves as super Christians (sound effects please). Sex before marriage is definitely a sin, but so isn’t lusting after a woman among other things. I find it interesting because when someone seems to succeed at one virtue, they tend to measure their life upon that virtue and compare themselves to others based upon their strength.

Therefore, I think we have to be careful about deifying virtues and looking down on others that perhaps do not have that virtue.