Comments on: How do I grieve well?

By: Jonalyn

Jonalyn — Fri, 02 Mar 2012 15:28:03 +0000

Chrissy,

I’m glad you’re reaching out here for more suggestions. I believe just your willingness to share your pain is a step of healthy grief.

Each year I think you have opportunities to push into your sadness and “funk” in new ways.

Did you pick up the book “Grieving the Death of a Father”? It has many ideas of ways to grieve each year.

I also highly recommend the movie “Lars and the Real Girl” for a lighthearted example of how good community helps a hurting person grieve. This could be a good way to compare your current situation to the way it ought to be.

Currently, how are you finding ways to grieve that fit who you are and who you father is?

By: Julia

Julia — Fri, 02 Mar 2012 13:24:24 +0000

Chrissy,
This is a question that I have been asking myself. I’m in the middle of my own grief process. I’m not sure there’s any right or wrong way to learn how to live without a loved one. It’s such an individual experience. I like to talk about my feelings, it helps me move through them. Some people, like my husband, are more internal and prefer journaling or visiting a cemetery. I also go through days where I feel fine and then others where I’m really sad. Your dad was a huge part of your life and you may always miss him. That sounds normal. Find what works for you and brings joy, like maybe an activity you used to do together or a new holiday tradition that honors his memory and life. I think the important thing to remember is that your grief won’t look like everyone elses.

By: anon p.

anon p. — Thu, 01 Mar 2012 14:17:20 +0000

Chrissy,

I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. I think closure is a bit of myth sometimes. Have you thought of perhaps joining a support group where you can share your story and air out some of your feelings and hear other peoples’ story? It might be helpful on your journey. Hang in there…you’ve done amazing so far…