“There will come a time when you believe that everything is finished. That will be the beginning.” — Louis L’Amour
My personal viewpoint is that humans are all born with a sense of the sacred. Human history seems to bear this out, especially with non-stop records of us skin-clad beings worshiping, dancing, erecting altars, chanting, meditating, singing.
We like to celebrate a sense of Wonder, an awareness that there must be something greater, something bigger. It doesn’t matter if it’s Goddess, God, gods, ourselves, nature, aliens, or some strange flaw in some brain lobe that makes us feel spiritual whenever it gets twitched by too much voltage. We attribute that sense of Wonder to something, Someone(s), and we worship. We can’t seem to help it.
And when it comes to what we choose to worship, some things seem to feed the best in us and some things don’t. As a young teenager during my year in private school, my jaw fell open as I learned that humans had worshipped a god named Molech and sacrificed their firstborn children on his altar. I read and re-read the Molech chapter in James Michner’s The Source a few years later, imagining my own self there in that time, that place, that culture, and wondering what I would do.
Probably roll my kid right down into the fiery arms, that’s what.
Because we believe what we believe. We follow what we know to be true, even if it isn’t actually true. We follow it right to the death. Or to the death of others, as the case may be. Sometimes I think that common manifestations of popular religions are not so different from Molech. He was just more obvious. Today, they may not tell me to hand over my firstborn son, but they will tell me that my heart is wicked, that I can’t trust myself, that I am evil on the inside, that I must obey their authority and follow their interpretation of the magic book, not asking questions (unless they are the kinds of questions with a happy Sunday School answer).
There is a post-traumatic stress disorder diagnosis for soldiers returning from war. But there really ought to be a spiritual-kind of PTSD diagnosis for those who have had their innate spirituality tied onto the rack, pulled at with iron tongs, and slowly roasted over an open fire.
“Trust and obey for there’s no other way to be happy in Jesus…” I can feel myself wanting to slip into that happy little trance just typing the words. I am transported back to soft church pews, to the sun coming in the window, to the sense of people who knew what was good and what was bad, to the feeling that, “all is right with the world, as long as I am here, as long as I am singing this song…”
But trust who? Usually the answer is the leaders in charge, who are, of course, in submission to the sacred book that speaks for God, which they happen to interpret.
Have we come all that far from the days of burning each other at the stake, like we did over transubstantiation?
“No, it isn’t the Body and Blood, and I’m in power so I will burn you alive!”
“Yes it is the Body and Blood and now I’m in power so I will burn you alive!”
It would be hilarious if it hadn’t actually happened. That is what Christ came for?
And in what ways is it happening today — only no physical Molech arms, no physical stake and no actual fiery torches — just sanctuaries full of people who are taught that they are evil on the inside, that the world outside is to be feared, that eternal torture is the fate of all who do not hop, skip and jump, that spirituality is a matter of believing a certain assortment of words.
It’s not circumcision, it’s castration. Cut off from the sense that we can trust the voice deep inside of ourselves. Cut off from the sense that our essence, our being, our core, is good and wonderful and holy. Cut off from the awareness that Love is what matters. We roll our own hearts down into the fire while we look at Molech in horror, we tie our own sparkling selves to the stake while we shake our heads at those crazy people “way back then,” we settle into the numbness that they call “spiritual maturity,” snuggling up to our pet doctrines when we go to sleep instead of curling up with Life.
Coming out of the fog of her spiritual PTSD, the woman raises her head. She listens. She breathes. She smiles. There is a lot of laughing now. Being happy is no longer suspect. Finding joy is no longer something she will save for heaven, someday. Joy is here. Right now. Joy because Louis L’Amour and Jesus are right. It is finished. There is much to be done, but it is all already done, and because of that, the doing itself is peace.
She does not have to perform. She does not have to do. She does not have to jump through hoops. She does not have to answer to the self-appointed authorities on spirituality. She stands in front of the open sky with her worshipful sense of Wonder, and she is spiritually alive.
And who is it that she is worshiping? Whoever it is that the worship belongs to. It doesn’t need a name. It is Love. And because it is Love, it is complete. Love has no beginning and has no end because it exists outside of time. Therefore it is finished. And it is just beginning.
This is a good life.
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Speaking of a good life, I have had a wonderful time being a part of the Breakfast Reading team of writers. They are a fantastic group of people, authentically learning to live and love, using their gift of writing to help us all muse about things in new and provoking ways. I am also thankful for our delightful readers — those who comment and those who don’t (you silent ones know who you are!). So it is with fond memories that I say goodbye to writing for BR, moving on into a new chapter in my adventure. Thank you all so much for the opportunity to be a part of your life and for sharing yours with me. It has been an honor.
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Molly, hopefully we’ll stay in touch.
By the way, have you ever read Louis L’Amour’s Education of a Wandering Man?
I love Louis L’Amour; oh yes, I do.
And I’ve loved your writings and getting to know you here, Molly.
Thanks for sharing so much, with all of us.
Molly, your essay comes from your heart and your experience. I can relate to much of it. However, your conclusion is simply wrong. You say,”Whoever it is that the worship belongs to. It doesn’t need a name. It is Love.” I agree that “It” doesn’t necessarily need a name to a young child; but the core message of the Bible is that the true God who created everything has a Name. And He has chosen to reveal his Name, and the characteristics that the Name encompasses, to the people of Israel, for their sake and ultimately for the sake of the whole world. To say that “It” doesn’t need a name is to deny the entire revelation. If that is your perspective, you are welcome to it, but it is clearly not a biblical perspective.
Molly,
As a caveat, I do understand that there may be a time, while recovering from doctrine-induced PTSD, that someone may need for a while to let go of all doctrine, become as a small child and learn, as from a new beginning, to trust the GOd who simply loves. But this period should normally lead to an integrated maturity (or maturing process) in which the recoverer is eventually able to handle some of the conflicts in the world that have to do with good and evil, and differing ideas of truth.
Different people will have different perspectives. For one, the only mature perspective will be coming back to Christianity. For others, their path may take them in different directions (no less “mature”…no less “integrated”…just different).
Many people who suffer from spiritual abuse find the typical Christian view repelling (that view being: you are allowed to question for a brief period of time, but then you must come back to the fold and subscribe to all the basic Christian tenants). I have watched this viewpoint run many people away who found themselves on the edges of Christianity following their spiritual abuse experience.
Such a viewpoint pretends to be a safe place for recovery from abuse but it is not. It has a required end in mind, a required conclusion that the questioner must come eventually subscribe to. That’s not freedom. That’s not safe. That’s not allowing for true recovery of personhood.
I agree with you Molly that when others give you “space” only to have another hidden agenda in mind for you, that is not free nor safe. Many walk away from the Christian faith into another. Many walk out of others into the Christian faith. Unless we have the freedom to reject, we don’t have the freedom to accept… at least not in this world.
I know you and Rachel would have a lot in common with what you’ve written here, about your experience, about the Christian agendas (she’s been a tremendous help to me but has left me more wrestling than ever on the identity of today’s “church” and, in my own opinion, a somewhat fabricated subculture that wounds with institutions and blind followers)… and I also think Rachel is correct that if Love is everything that we think, then Love insists on revealing, refusing to be hidden, just as lovers refuse to remain hidden from each other. At one level, Love knows we can only hear at a generic level and, amazingly, Love does not push (“bearing all things”, after all). But Love wants to be known. And I think that’s what Rachel is saying… Love ends up having many names, some true, some false. The trick is being open enough, and cultivating our human faculties enough to know when Love is truly speaking, and then listening what each has discovered… this includes the Bible and everything else and searching for what it means and if it’s worth of all our humanity.
I’ve learned that critical thinking, like love, takes a lot of hard work. And it is hard work for those who want to grow in both. And it is nearly impossible for those who don’t. My spiritually abusive background clouded everything for me. Yet so does a lot who are not abusive but simply remain entrenched in “the way life is” without examination or comparison. And that’s a sad place to be. As you’ve said before, we often take believing over being. I agree… when they are not supposed to be opposites. I would also say we take believing over becoming.. and sometimes being over becoming, focusing on right action over healthy souls.
I’m glad you are growing… many simply throw up their hands and walk away, go numb, and spend their life in intellectual conversation in bars. Your vitality is inspiring.
I look forward to hear what you learn as you go deeper into Love.
Molly, your voice will be missed here. Thanks for being part of the inaugural writing team at BreakfastReading, for your open hands, for your metaphorical intelligence, for being willing to write with so much uncertainty in your journey. You’ve blessed us.
Molly, I’ve found your posts incredibly genuine and reflective of a certain experience of Christianity that leaves the world wanting. You put into words much of how I’ve felt but not been sure how to articulate – or been scared to really admit that the faith I’m part of is responsible for such anti-love towards others. Thanks for all the courage and risk you take to delve into areas that are shameful and hard and leave us with many questions. I found much to take away from your writing and will miss your posts VERY much! Best to you, may you continue blessing people with your insight and mercy.
Thank you, all. It’s been a treat. Warm regards to all.