It’s been two years since I spoke at Biola University’s Torrey Conference on how “Harry and Sally Are Wrong: Why...
Harry and Sally are Wrong: Friendships between Men and Women+
To watch a video version of this post for Biola University’s Torrey Honors Conference, see “Harry and Sally are Wrong:...
Christianity Was Crushing My Children+
Part 2 Meet Vyckie (if you missed Part 1). I met the activist and atheist, Vyckie D. Garrison, first on Twitter. Our...
Free to Talk With An Atheist+
People with no religious affiliation have risen from 8% in 1990 to 21% in 2013.* Chances are you’re going to...
Consent is Complicated+
The trouble with this post is that the men who will read it are probably not the men I’m talking...
What is Jesus’ Sexual Ethic?+
“We have what we need to develop a sexual ethic [from Jesus’ words]. But it’s not going to be based...
Emerald City: Eroticism in the Soup Kitchen+
In this second Emerald City*, I interview author Amy Frykholm, writer on religion, culture and spirituality. In Amy’s recent book, See Me...
How Does Shame Get in the Way of Pleasure?+
“How does shame get in the way of us enjoying our bodies? Not just between lovers, but in all relationships?”...
New Smartphone Habits for Election Season+
In the movie Wall-E, the mega-corporation Buy n Large (BnL) has taken over the world. Far from earth, on the...
How to Find the Right Therapist+
Because 2015 holds hope for all of us, I want to share the most pivotal way I’ve found hope and...
A Final Post+
Maybe you saw a post from RubySlippers in your subject line and wondered. It’s been a long time since I’ve...
New Smartphone Habits for Election Season+
In the movie Wall-E, the mega-corporation Buy n Large (BnL) has taken over the world. Far from earth, on the...
How “Marital Smugness” Hurts Single & Gay People (From my new book)+
I’ve just finished a short book. Finding Words: An Unusual Evangelical View on the Gay Marriage Debate came out of the class...
The Therapy Solution for Sexual Shame+
If you’ve been following along this summer (check out the full series list below to catch up), you’ve probably heard...
Sex with the Lights On: A Spiritual Discipline?+
They knew life was precious, and love–you just don’t turn it away. For ten years at Soulation, we’ve worked to...
What’s Allowed in Christian Bedrooms?+
“Right behavior in and of itself does not assure love, honor, or grace.” When you want to do something out...
When Women Initiate Sex+
Ladies: How does your spouse react when you take the lead sexually? Men tend to not publicly complain about their wives...