I don’t know much about you, but I can guess that you need one thing right now.
You need rest.
The Bible called that one way before we were around.
The first thing God called holy wasn’t a person or an animal, it wasn’t a star or a plant; it was a day, a wedge of time (Genesis 2:3).
On the seventh day of creation, God comes to a dreadful halt (Gen 1:31-2:3). Sort of makes me curious what he could have created, what he could have checked off his to-do list, what other life forms could exist right now.
Free from productivity, the God of Israel opened up a palace of time for himself, and walked right in, put his feet up and took his ease (This idea of a palace in time comes from Abraham Heschel‘s The Sabbath)
Imagine a sparkling palace of rest with a bed and an easy chair, an afghan and a hot bath all with your name on it
In our busy American worlds rest is something we do if we have the leisure to do it. The wealthy rest, the lazy rest, but those of us who have real work, real lives, families, young children, sick relatives, churches, hobbies and vacation time we’re storing up; we do not rest. We’ve found a way to cope, to relax, to work without it.
Most of us actually believe rest is for the weary and faint, the overwhelmed, the sick or depressed. We rest because we’re forced into it, not because we’re invited.
Or perhaps we turn down the Sabbath rest invitation because we’re not sure what a restful day (without a beach and a cabana) would look like. How do you rest in the clutter and piles of home? Isn’t really true rest like really good sex, something you have to go on vacation to find?
I disagree on both accounts.
The last and most compelling reason most of us don’t rest is because we’re not convinced rest is as spiritual as God made it out to be.
I mean it’s easier and even more rewarding to kneel beside your bed to pray. You can point to that time as productive, focused, self-disciplined. It’s even easier to fast (especially with the added perk of losing a few pounds) or to give to the poor than to rest, both come with spiritual adrenaline attached. It’s easier to attend church and worship God, to take a missionary trip, even to love your enemy than it is to rest.
We don’t remember that rest is a commandment, lodged in the Ten Commandments, sandwiched between idolatry and murder. We may not even know that God was so concerned with his people resting that he rained extra manna (pumped with preservatives) down the day before the Sabbath so the Israelites could have breakfast, lunch and dinner in bed.
When I accept God’s invitation to enter the palace of time, at the end of those 24 hours I feel almost gluttonous. If I’ve successfully sworn off computer, commerce, meetings, laundry and errands I’ve also wrestled with boredom.
And what do I have to show for all my intentional commandment following? I’ve watched the chickadees scatter seed on the snow, I’ve seen my son scatter his toys which lay around us, I’ve watched the dishes pile up and for what? I can’t even post that on my facebook status.
Have you ever wondered what resting would actually look like for you? You can figure that out right now with one intuitive question, “What feels like work to me?”
Then make a list. Though yours will be different, here’s what mine included:
1- writing
2- responding to emails
3- constructing a talk
4- designing powerpoint
5- laundry
6- dusting
7- cleaning toilets
8- cleaning dishes
9- any cleaning
10-going online
11-shopping
12-going out to eat
Then comes the fun question, “What would I do if I knew all my work is done?”
Of course, this requires a stretch of the imagination, but go with me. Imagine that all the items on the first list were completed. An empty inbox, a paper turned in, a sparkling toilet, a clear counter, stocked shelves.
Now what?
A nap!
Okay, take it.
Then, you wake up. You fight the urge to feel guilty and ask yourself again, “What would I do if I knew all my work were done?”
My answers are neither unusual or praiseworthy.
~ watch hours of 30 Rock
~ take a snow shoe
~ spontaneously play with my son even if it meant crawling around the cabin and getting dog hair all over our knees,
~ a long, hot bath
~ sit on the porch with snow all around the rocking chair
~ read poetry over lunch
~ slowly, carefully make macaroni and cheese
~ sketch
~ pray
~ read Scripture slowly, maybe just two verses.
Each Sabbath rest requires that I overlook the things that working women everywhere feel obliged to fix or feel guilty about not fixing: hairy floors, piles of snow, foody dishes, overflowing inboxes, buzzing, ringing phones.
I used to preach regularly on the values of Sabbath and wry mothers would confront me before I made it to the book table. “I want to see you rest when you have a kid!”
So I offer my failed attempts and counter them with this new discovery. You can rest easier with a pint-sized munchkin showing you how.
You can do most of my list, with a one year old traipsing, splashing, crawling around, guiding you to become absorbed in rest.
You know what else? Kids even nap sometimes, proving to me that they get this commandment better than we do.
Originally written and published for Christianity Today‘s digizine, Kyria.














I have long been convinced of keeping Saturday Shabbat. My Christian fellowship and corporate worship on Sunday is important but not restful.
Thank you for your thoughts and pictures.
Elizabeth,
Hope you’ve been able to have a Shabbat since reading!
I like the idea of writing the list of what is NOT rest. Thank you. I will do that!!!!
How did the list go? What was NOT rest to you?
Perfectly timed as you’re gearing up for your sabbatical. I hope the writing you’re doing will be restful in refreshing ways. I’m halfway into A Year of Plenty and it talks some about the sabbath – lost gem of a commandment. It is very difficult to keep the sabbath as a mother of young children. I don’t even know what mine should look like. But I know God does. Something to pray about…
Hey Mandy,
Have you found any ideas since writing about how to take a Sabbath with your two boys?
Denise Roy wrote: “I had a revelation. My monastery is not a silent cell out in the wilderness. My monastery is a minivan. It is also a kitchen, a child’s bedroom, and office. My monastery is in the heart of the world – in family life, with a child on my lap, in my partner’s arms.”
Here’s some great wisdom I gleaned from Craig Goodwin in Year of Plenty:
“The best of the monastic traditions are not about separating and dividing up the spiritual from the necessary. Rather they are about wedding them together in a holy rhythm.”
And also: “Too often we confuse attentiveness [to God] with separating ourselves from our everyday lives in order to ‘make room for God’…We need to more attentively enter the actual circumstances of our lives…Give me skills and practices that nurture awareness of truth in the midst of these circumstances.”
I lack the resources and the desire to get away from my life for a retreat, rather I’m training myself to find peace and rest in the everyday, knowing that God is my sabbath. God is my rest. Everyday.
Can you think of things that are restful but are also work to you? Can I count this as my mini-sabbatical?
At least once weekly we go pick blueberries (or peaches or apples) in the sweet warmth of the sun, knowing it’s work but it’s also restful and it’s good. I baked yesterday and that’s what I used to do on my sabbaths pre-kids, and now I have sticky curious little helpers and it could be stressful except that I’ve decided can also be a sabbatical if I make it restful. I’m blessed and get a mini-sabbatical everyday at nap time when I get to work a little, and believe it or not, that’s refreshing and restful for me. And everyday I go to the gym and my little ones are cared for my the YMCA workers and I get a sabbatical.
Jesus was reprimanded for healing on the sabbath. Perhaps our notion of doing nothing on the sabbath is outdated. Would it be wrong if I spent my sabbath serving? Can I find good rest in that?
Mandy,
Amen to God being our rest every day… Some very good food for thought here. I love your idea that taking mini-breaks can also be restful. Tim Hansel has some ideas along these lines called “Two Minute Holidays” in his book When I Relax I Feel Guilty.”
However, I don’t like confusing Sabbath (a 24 hour time, made sacred by God) with relaxing activity. Sabbath in my practice has taught me the helplessness and ennui, even the frustration of an entire 24 hours of not creating. By the way, I’m trying to build up my “rules” for Sabbath from the Old Testament commands from God, not from the Pharisees.
Refusing to create is the most restorative part of Sabbath, it means we are chomping at the bit to create the following evening. It also means we feel like gluttons with time. This is most uncomfortable.
If God truly rested on the seventh day, without baking or creating, working out on a cloud stair master or sculpting another animals, then how can we claim to be practicing Sabbath when we do these things. Of course, Dale (and you) keep me challenged in these areas by reminding me of Jesus’ example. Yes, he did heal on the Sabbath. But I take this example to mean that if trouble is presented to us, if our oxen fall into a ditch than yes, we must rescue them, Sabbath or no.
However, I don’t think it means we seek ways to work, even if we typically find these things relaxing. A true Sabbath feels very, very slow.
Speaking of oxen in the ditch, this happened at our last Sabbath when our oxen (aka three corgis) got locked into the garage in a skunk. We spent our Sabbath peacefully buying Skunk De-scentifyinmication chemicals and helping them out of their ditch.
We stayed joyful and evenly paced through it, but I would not call it rest. It lacked the freedom to not do anything in it. It felt full, but also busy.
Sabbath, as I understand it in the command in Exodus, is a time to not do the things we normally do each week, to copy God in the way he rested.
So then bigger question is, how does God rest?
So while I want baking to be part of my rest, and yours, as could be blueberry picking, I would say these remind me of the gathering manna and God expressly provided these things so Israel could rest on the Sabbath. I also wouldn’t say working out is rest, unless you spend all your days in a office and only “get” to work out on Sabbath.
I don’t think the best of monastic traditions refuse to separate. This is hard to write, however as integration is a huge part of Soulation and Dale and my passion. Nevertheless, there remains sacred places, sacred people and sacred days. I see Jesus honoring that when he said, “Sabbath is made for man.”
So how is Sabbath serving you? How are you letting this 24 hours of rest serve you? still you? remake you?