The trouble with this post is that the men who will read it are probably not the men I’m talking about. But, just in case you are, this one’s for you.

There is a man I find particular troublesome. Let’s call him Adam.

I do not like to hug Adam. I don’t like how I feel when I’m being hugged by him. I feel smothered, scared, counting the milliseconds until the hug is over. And it’s taken years (yes, that’s how long this has been going on) to figure out that I feel used when I hug him.

That is a problem. It means I’m hugging someone I don’t want to hug. It means that all the glorious feminist verbiage about female consent is bull crap, unless I know how to practice it.

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