Spiritual and sexual abuse symptoms run along parallel lines. These are the kids who signed the contracts.

Listen to Dr. Sellers’ story of realizing that teen years in purity culture lead to sexual dysfunction in marriage (and her hopeful ideas and recommended reading on how to overcome dysfunction).

In Freedom Builders, we often hear our friends recount their families or friends asking them to “pipe down” about spiritual abuse, or shame-based cultures like Dr. Sellers mentions. No blood was shed, no bruises on your arms, pipe down! Since there was no physical coercion (though, often, there was) you just need to forgive and move on.

Our video today explains why we need to treat shame-based cultures and sexual abuse with similar caution and focus on recovery. The symptoms are the same, and these two kinds of abuse often come twined together.

And don’t miss our earlier conversation on how purity culture kids can have a great honeymoon.

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Click here for week one on being mismatched in lovemaking. Click here for week two on abuse recovery.

What’s this summer series all about?

This summer, I’ll be sharing short videos taken from my two hour Emerald City interview on “Shame, Intimacy and Sex Ed” with Christian sex therapist, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers. You’ve already seen her at RubySlippers’ posts and interviews.

Click here for being mismatched in lovemaking.

Click here for abuse recovery.

Click here for purity kids and sexual disfunction.

Click here for honeymoons for the formerly-abstinent.

Click here for duty sex.

Click here for male and female sex drives.

Click here for Jesus’ sexual ethic.

Click here for shutting down shame in marriage.

Click here for how shame gets in the way of pleasure.

Click here for why sexual and spiritual abuse go together.

Click here for why your sex-drive is changing.

Click here for when women initiate sex.

Click here for what’s allowed in Christian bedrooms.

Click here for sex with the lights on as a spiritual discipline.

Click here for the therapy solution for sexual shame.

Because of Dr. Sellers practical concern that Christians understand that God created erotic desires, Tina is one of the best sources I’ve found in helping me navigate the pillow talk between me and my husband.

Dr. Sellers is a wife, mother, professor, founder of ThankGodForSex.org, certified sex therapist, and licensed family and marriage therapist. Those last two are a dynamic duo of credentials that are rarely seen together. And the lack of professionals who practice both family/marriage and sex therapies is a big problem for those of us who want thriving marriages and thriving sex lives. Thank God for Tina!  I particularly love the way she lives a sexual intimacy that she teaches (My Love List for My Husband . . . And Why Gratefulness is Good for the Heart). Follow her blog and thoughts @TinaSSellers.

I will share a new video every week this summer! Watch the 2-5 minute videos that seem helpful to you, leave the rest.