Ladies and gentlemen, I’m glad you’re here.

IMG_1613Jonalyn400pxTall_shoesYou’ve found the blog dedicated to my belief that God wants us to find the road that leads us back home to ourselves. I believe our humanity (the lovely, the goofy, even the unattractive parts) matters to the Creator of the universe. In these posts we’ll be trying to follow Jesus’ words and life in order to reclaim this earth for goodness, light, love, and freedom.

RubySlippers is a Soulation blog where you will find honest engagement about gender, sexuality, faith. The title comes from my first book, Ruby Slippers: How the Soul of a Woman Brings Her Home. Originally, I simply wrote to Christian women, like me. But the conversation here has expanded from debates with atheists about the meaning of sex, to hearing both sides on gay marriage, and interviews with men about cross-sex friendships.

0310272432_imageOne thing has not changed. I still love Jesus. I still believe his life and power guide us home. And there are so many things we need to come home to… our bodies, our gender, our sexual desires, our relationships.

I am a feminine feminist. When I was in high school, I painted a Saudi woman covered in a burqa standing on a southern California beach next to a bikini clad woman. I worked on a huge oil painting of two Victorian damsels. I pen-and-inked a life-sized Mary Magdalene and gave her my face. I was romantic and passionate and very concerned that women were not quite as valuable as men.

And in case you’re wondering, I didn’t wear all black.

I was voted prom queen and still got voted “Most Humble”. Figure that one out! The irony still makes me smile. I wore Victorian skirts and had plans to have lots (oh, about a dozen) children.  

I ended up at the University of Virginia, graduated early and after a gut-wrenching romance and broken engagement landed back in my hometown of Whittier, California.

It was in seminary at Biola University’s Talbot, School of Theology where I met and married Dale Fincher. After a year teaching junior high, Dale and I joined forces and founded Soulation, a non-profit dedicated to helping people become more fully human. In our 10th year of non-profit work, we now pastor Freedom Builders, and lead our team in writing curriculum (SoulGym), hosting Gatherings in Steamboat, speaking, authoring books, mentoring, and freeing the people of God to enjoy life. Torrey19_gallery_view

For fun, I like to watercolor, snowshoe and read.

Dale and I live in the Rocky Mountains with our son, two corgis and a Siamese cat.