His breath smells. She’s “pro-choice.” She makes me feel good. We come up with caveats to dismiss people from our lives or to invite them in. The search for intimacy — for rosy and ideal — in friends and lovers can overwhelm and harm, as Dr. John Mark Reynolds writes.

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