Our sex drive is tied to our playfulness.

Relationships can get complicated when one partner wants sex more than another. And what about all the seasons of life that surprisingly affect desire? This week, Dr. Sellers gives both practical cues about when your sex drive might tank (for both genders) and perspective on why desire grows for some and wanes for others.

And watch next week for Dr. Sellers’ answer to “What happens when women initiate sex?” I think you’ll like what she has to say, especially if you’re in a marriage of two noticeably different sex drives.

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If Dr. Sellers’ advice brings you to an “ah-ha!” moment, don’t miss these related videos, especially those I’ve bolded:

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What’s this summer series all about?

This summer, I’ll be sharing short videos taken from my two hour Emerald City interview on “Shame, Intimacy and Sex Ed” with Christian sex therapist, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers. You’ve already seen her at RubySlippers’ posts and interviews. See part one.

Because of Dr. Sellers practical concern that Christians understand that God created erotic desires, Tina is one of the best sources I’ve found in helping me navigate the pillow talk between me and my husband.

Dr. Sellers is a wife, mother, professor, founder of ThankGodForSex.org, certified sex therapist, and licensed family and marriage therapist. Those last two are a dynamic duo of credentials that are rarely seen together. And the lack of professionals who practice both family/marriage and sex therapies is a big problem for those of us who want thriving marriages and thriving sex lives. Thank God for Tina!  I particularly love the way she lives a sexual intimacy that she teaches (My Love List for My Husband . . . And Why Gratefulness is Good for the Heart). Follow her blog and thoughts @TinaSSellers.