“We have what we need to develop a sexual ethic [from Jesus’ words]. But it’s not going to be based on behavior.”

Jesus didn’t leave us with a how-to handbook or to-do list for our sex lives. Thankfully, he offers something better: an overarching joy in human connection. Dr. Sellers explains how we can take this “rule” of connection and boil it down to specific ways to increase satisfaction in bed with our partners.

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Let’s discuss: Is there an area of sexuality you wish Jesus had given more specific instruction?

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What’s this summer series all about?

This summer, I’ll be sharing short videos taken from my two hour Emerald City interview on “Shame, Intimacy and Sex Ed” with Christian sex therapist, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers. You’ve already seen her at RubySlippers’ posts and interviews. See part one.

Because of Dr. Sellers practical concern that Christians understand that God created erotic desires, Tina is one of the best sources I’ve found in helping me navigate the pillow talk between me and my husband.

Dr. Sellers is a wife, mother, professor, founder of ThankGodForSex.org, certified sex therapist, and licensed family and marriage therapist. Those last two are a dynamic duo of credentials that are rarely seen together. And the lack of professionals who practice both family/marriage and sex therapies is a big problem for those of us who want thriving marriages and thriving sex lives. Thank God for Tina!  I particularly love the way she lives a sexual intimacy that she teaches (My Love List for My Husband . . . And Why Gratefulness is Good for the Heart). Follow her blog and thoughts @TinaSSellers.