If you’ve lived in shame from spiritual abuse you know how an abuser cuts off your intuition and free will. Below, Dr. Sellars explains, in under 5 minutes, how spiritual abusers and sexual abusers use similar tactics. Both tear apart the body/soul relationship, both distance the victim from the way God intends us to live whole and free.

Listen to Dr. Sellers explain why one type of abuse may perpetuate another. She also explains a self-medicating tendency of some abuse victims who unknowingly become abusers as they try to untangle what happened in their past. This is one of my favorite videos.

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If, as a single person, you want more on how to heal from spiritual or sexual abuse, browse Why 30-Year-Old Virgins are Not Sexless, Taking Sexual Hunger Seriously, and my earlier interview with Dr. Sellers (see the first few minutes).

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What’s this summer series all about?

This summer, I’ll be sharing short videos taken from my two hour Emerald City interview on “Shame, Intimacy and Sex Ed” with Christian sex therapist, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers. You’ve already seen her at RubySlippers’ posts and interviews. See part one.

Because of Dr. Sellers practical concern that Christians understand that God created erotic desires, Tina is one of the best sources I’ve found in helping me navigate the pillow talk between me and my husband.

Dr. Sellers is a wife, mother, professor, founder of ThankGodForSex.org, certified sex therapist, and licensed family and marriage therapist. Those last two are a dynamic duo of credentials that are rarely seen together. And the lack of professionals who practice both family/marriage and sex therapies is a big problem for those of us who want thriving marriages and thriving sex lives. Thank God for Tina!  I particularly love the way she lives a sexual intimacy that she teaches (My Love List for My Husband . . . And Why Gratefulness is Good for the Heart). Follow her blog and thoughts @TinaSSellers.